Taking a Stand Against Sexual Violence in the Costuming Community

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A shocking revelation has recently rocked the costuming community. Many brave women have come forward in admitting that they have been sexually assaulted at conventions and hotel rooms by male cosplayers. They have been raped, beaten, threatened and stalked. This isnt a case of he said-she said. In some cases there are police reports (although no charges were filed) in addition to piles of damning evidence by more than dozens of women who can prove they were abused at the hands of predators and sociopaths hiding within the cosplay community. Ive seen some of this evidence with my own eyes and trust me when I say, it is disturbing. These are rapists, plain and simple. Sexual violence against women is NEVER acceptable. Speaking out about it is one of the first steps you can take in healing and raising awareness. As Amazon Sisters, we need to protect one another and take a stand in putting a stop to this.

If you have been a victim of sexual violence first and foremost what you must understand is that it was not your fault. You did not deserve what happened to you. The fault lies in your attacker and him alone and he will do it again to someone else. Below I have listed some steps to help on the path for healing that I hope can guide my amazon sisters to peace.



1. Tell someone: I know from personal experience that it is sometimes difficult to speak about a trauma in your life however, it is the first step in healing. You have to be honest with yourself about what happened and you have to come to the realization that it was not okay. You need support so please, confide in someone you know and trust.

2. Go to the authorities: This step may be the hardest. Its difficult being honest with yourself about the incident and even harder to go to the police and tell your story to a stranger. However a police record can be very beneficial. It serves as an official record that you can get a copy of and provide to convention organizers in the future. After you have filed a report, you can make the decision to press criminal charges.

3. Go to the doctor or emergency room: Particularly if a beating was involved, a medical record would further provide proof that you were attacked by the assailant.

4. Collect evidence: Photos of yourself displaying psychical bruises, cuts and other bodily harm, text messages, voice mails and emails admitting guilt and anything else that would be beneficial to your case.

5. Seek counseling: The trauma you have experienced will affect you not only psychically but emotionally and mentally. Your emotional and mental health are just as important as what your body has suffered through and just like your body, it requires treatment.

6. Dont be afraid to speak out and prepare for the backlash: The reason why this topic is circulating like wild fire within the community right now is because one brave woman spoke up. She publicly addressed her abusive relationship regarding her ex and soon after, countless women came forward with evidence and similar stories regarding the same man. Some of the stories related to him were much worse. Other stories surfaced of other abusers and rapists who masquerade as cosplayers. Although this brave woman received a lot of support she was also met with backlash and hate mail. This is something you have to prepare for. Be prepared to be a warrior and fight. Perhaps even enlist a friend to help filter out your email and comments.

Joyful Heart Foundations helps victims of sexual assault and domestic violence:

 http://www.joyfulheartfoundation.org/

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Product Review Younique 3D Fiber Lashes

Younique Cosmetics is a company that specializes in premium quality makeup. It was founded by a brother and sister team and is the first  direct sales company to market and sell almost exclusively though social media. You can view their Official Facebook Page HERE. This article is a review for the Moodstruck 3D Fiber Lashes. This item is currently Youniques best selling product. This three step mascara advertises to give incredible thickness and volume to your lashes. Weve all heard those promises before, right? Im pleased to report that this product actually delivers.

Currently priced at $29.00 (plus a small shipping fee), a listing for the Moodstruck 3D Fiber Lashes can be found HERE. Details can also be found on the website such as directions for application and the ingredients in the product. An interesting note to point out is that the fibers are taken from 100% natural green tea.



The 3D Fiber Lashes come in a thick, durable case with two mascara tubes inside. One tube is the transplanting gel. The other is the natural fibers. It also comes with instructions.  The first step is to apply one coat of your favorite mascara. After it dries, you apply one even coat of the transplanting gel. You do not wait for the gel to dry. You immediately apply a coat of fiber lashes and seal it with another coat of transplanting gel. You can repeat this process as many times as you want for longer, thicker lashes. If the lashes start to clump, they can be combed out with a lash brush. It can be washed off easily with soap and water or eye makeup remover.

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The 3D Fiber lashes certainly succeed in delivering dramatic lashes. This item is particularly helpful for those who do not know how to apply false eye lashes. I would prefer to use this product rather than dealing with the glue and mess of false eye lashes. The 3D Fiber Lashes is quicker to apply and less of a mess. Theres also the bonus of not having to wonder if your false eye lash will fall off in the middle of the day.This is perfect for cosplay, everyday wear, date night, special occasions, you get the hint. To place an order, visit this link HERE and be sure to check out more Younqiue products HERE.

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